I didn’t want to get involved in the whole “Ophelia Benson reveals her TERFy self” nonsense, given how it’s hurt and tore through my friends lists.
I really didn’t.
The current flap has been dutifly and wonderfully documented by some fine folks and former colleagues of hers, here, here, here, and here. I’m with them. “Correcting” an abortion provider for using more inclusive language is shitty, petty, and downright trolly. So that’s handled and I don’t have to go in about it. Thanks, y’all.
But I AM gonna mention the fucked up comparison of inclusive language to “All Lives Matter”.
What the fuck?
Seriously, what the fuck?
If this wasn’t the most White Feministy of White Feminist (TM) nonsense, I’d eat my hat. As soon as I get a hat.
This isn’t the first time a white person has tried to invoke BLM/ALM for some other bullshit, but damnit, it’s getting tiring. You can’t compare a movement about black people being shot, beaten, killed in the streets by cops to whatever bullshit bugbear that’s bothering you. You can’t. Because it’s comparing apples to a fucking grenade with the pin pulled. Stop it.
It’s not the same, it’s not remotely the same, and it reminds me why I’m always wary of white feminists who seem to forget that whole “intersectionality” thing. You’re not on my side. I don’t want you on my side. Our struggle isn’t fodder for your bullshit.
(Mod Mistress Note: We’re not rehashing any old arguments about “who/what/when/where/why is a TERF or whatever “here. Try it and watch your comment not even make it through modding, kay?)
Seriously?!? 
Of course you’re probably familiar with the phrase Girls Rule. It can be found on t-shirts, on hats… all over the place. And why doesn’t it say Everyone Rules? Because it operates on the premise that boys have always ruled; it’s a given and there’s no need to mention it because anyone with a brain knows it to be true.
The same is true of Black Lives Matter. It operates on the premise that white lives have always mattered. The fact that certain white people have the audacity to use the phrase All Lives Matter means they are missing the point. This is just proof of their sense of entitlement; this is just them taking for granted all the privileges they’ve enjoyed simply because of their skin color.